Subtle signs of a toxic relation that you have been ignoring because “it’s practice”

 1) It’s making you insecure:

To the limit of obsession. You have put in all your time and energy into your practice. Needless to say sweat money and blood into it. But your practice is not performing enough and is making you worry to the extent of taking a toll on your health. You might have taken loans thinking your practice will pay it off and now it is giving you nightmares.

2) It is holding you an emotional Hostage :

Whenever you take a day off to yourself, you feel guilty about it. You feel guilty over the stuff you really have no control over, like patients not walking in, or you expecting more from a day’s work.

3) Overstepping of Limits:

If your practice is what is on your mind, and your practice is all that you do then you need to think rationally. Your practice is dominating your life without giving you a break.

4) Pulling you down?

Do you feel your good work is not getting the right appreciation that you deserve. Basically, if at the end of the day you have hijacked your good mood. You need to rethink where exactly are you? Is it because of your skills as a dental surgeon or the “employer” the clinic at who is driving you crazy and making you question yourself? Are they making you feel worthless or putting you down in front of your patients?

Take a break. Think Hard.

Realize what is wrong, where are you going wrong? Are you giving enough time to yourself and your family? Are you stuck in a stagnant relationship with your practice?

Once you realise what is wrong, do not hesitate to take help. If you are a fresher and have a new set up find mentors who will help you with managing your practice. Maybe they will point out a few reasons why your practice is taking all your energy and giving you nothing in return. You can always find many courses online to make you better at the skills you lack and give you valuable lessons of life.

Find time and pamper yourself at least once a week. Don’t forget that you are also growing older every day. Take care of your health diet and be happy even if you had just one walk in. Have patience things will change.

As for your toxic relation with your employer, you need to figure out your shit. There are many many people who will pay you and value you as a dental practitioner. They might even be mentors to you to help you set your own practice once you are experienced enough. You can find employers looking for associate doctors on Indian Doctors Network app from all over India. You can search have one on one talk with them before deciding to join their practice.

If you keep on staying in a relationship like this it can take away your mental peace, confidence and eat away your happiness and sense of freedom so discreetly, that you wouldn’t even know what is happening.

You are the protagonist in your story. It’s your job to do everything in your hand to shine in your story.